In this installment of A Man Should Know for The Free Press, Elliot Ackerman reflects on the first time he wore a tuxedo and the lessons he wishes he had known earlier about formal dress.
Drawing from his own experience leaving Marine Corps dress uniforms behind for civilian formal wear, Ackerman explains the small details that help a man wear a tuxedo with confidence.
The Rules of Black Tie
The essay walks through the key elements of a tuxedo, including the bow tie, tuxedo shirt, cuff links, trousers, cummerbund, jacket, and shoes. Ackerman explains how each piece contributes to the overall effect of black tie attire.
Dressing with Intention
Beyond the practical rules, Ackerman argues that dressing well is a form of communication. The structure of formal menswear may seem restrictive, but within those limits there is still room for personality, judgment, and expression.
Knowing Which Rules to Break
The essay concludes with a larger point about style and confidence. A man does not need to follow every rule rigidly, but he should understand the rules before choosing to break them.
For Ackerman, wearing a tuxedo well is not about perfection. It is about preparation, intention, and knowing how to carry oneself at important moments.